I have a friend whom I would describe as beautiful (both inside and out), funny, smart articulate and who possesses other great intangible qualities.
She was not always as comfortable hearing such compliments such as the above as she is now.
When my wife or I would give her a compliment, it always seemed to be answered with several reasons why the compliment was not deserved. My wife finally said, “Just say ‘thanks’ and leave it at that.”
Unfortunately, the bad stuff is much easier to believe. In fact, when I asked my friend to describe herself, she drew a blank. It was only when I asked her how her friends would describe her that she was able to come up with a decent description of herself.
Having low self esteem or a low opinion of one’s self could happen for a number of reasons. Usually one can see a pattern start in childhood or adolescence. Unfortunately, it doesn’t take long hearing or thinking repeated negative comments about one’s self to start the low self esteem plunge.
If one does not have consistent praise or a feeling of worth, it can lead to feelings of depression, anxiety and stress.
Over time, stress alone can lead to health concerns such as high blood pressure. High blood pressure, left untreated, can lead to heart attack, stroke, blindness or other organ disease such as kidney disease.
If one adds in the unhealthy habits associated with anxieties, depression and stress, the physical toll is that much more exacerbated. Consider than many with low self esteem tend to over eat (bad for the heart, not to mention type 2 diabetes).
Alcohol and drug use also go hand in hand with low self esteem. We try to create our own “happy place” with the help of mind altering drugs. For many, this becomes an addiction.
Noticing how kind my friend was to her friends (including me) and how she always had something positive to say about each and every one of us, I asked her if it weren’t possible for her “talk” to herself as if she were talking to a friend.
She made the joke, “so I am to lie to myself? ‘No, you don’t look fat in that outfit.’ Who would I be kidding?” She went through the motions anyway because she respected my opinion.
While at first she found it silly, she did start to notice that when she focused on making positive comments about herself, her attitude improved as well as her self esteem. She started to care about herself and her health.
She suggested that she wanted to join a gym for years but wouldn’t go until she lost weight. She was too embarrassed to be seen working out while being overweight.
Knowing that’s a cycle that is rarely broken, I suggested that she try my all natural Weight Loss Breeze program. The program is easy to start and best of all it works. Losing weight helped my friend to understand that she was worthy of being healthy and staying that way. I highly encourage you to try it today!
If high blood pressure is your health concern (regardless of the cause) I hope you will try my High Blood Pressure program. It has helped thousands and I believe it will help you!
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Dear Christian
I think the concept of self esteem is the cause of many ills among young people these days.
Only idiots esteem themselves. Normal people understand that esteem is always granted by others. We esteem people because of their talents, their contributions, their gifts, their generosity.
But these days parents and teachers are expected to foster “self-esteem” in children. It’s madness.
Fostering self confidence is different. Self confidence comes through achievement – a very different matter.
This afternoon I praised my 8 year old gransdon for feeding my chooks without being asked to do so. I didn’t give him any money or confectionary reward; I just praised him.
Surely a grandmother’s praise will build his genuine self confidence.
Christian,
I enjoy your blogs very much.
I was first drawn to your “3-exercise program for Blood Pressure” over a month ago and have been doing them most everyday since. I have noticed a drop in my blood pressure readings as a result, and do believe they make a difference.
This latest blog entry about self esteem rings home with me, as I’ve always found it difficult to see myself the way others describe me. I know this has led to an underlying anxiety that is always there in me, even though it’s not noticeable on the outside according to my friends and family.
I do believe this anxiety contributes to my high blood pressure readings. Through your exercises, I have felt some release of this anxiety, and can actually feel and see blood pressure readings change.
I will continue to do the exercises because of this positive change. The relaxation exercise definitely helps me sleep better at night, too. Thanks!
Thanks for bringing such an exceptional concept. Sometimes we avoid such a strong issue to discuss but it is essential to concentrate on such topic for the sake of our existence.
Great article that should be a must read for all.I believe we all suffer low self esteem at one time or another.
Hi Christian,
been using the programe now for two weeks, and had dramatic results, BP readings now at near normal for my age group, also sleeping better, and in general feeling much more relaxed and stress free, thanks Patrick
I don’t suffer from low self esteem I never have and I am slight over weight beautiful woman even as a child I had lots of confident and I feel like right now today if I was in the room with any super star I still would feel confident and just as important! My mom raised me that way, and no I don’t have the longest hair or the best shape but I know that I am worthy of anything anyone one else is worthy of and yes I love me some me…I instilled that in my daughter too, and we are both humble lovable giving and kind not too mention happy I’m 50 my daughte is 20…first preservation…love thyself so you can love other’ its not hard I was a chosen one because I had a pretty bad life growing up but I knew inside who I was and what I wanted to become…love yourself your so wothy…LaShelle